Cassey took a deep breath as though she could not stand it any longer. "Wanda, I think you're awfully inexperienced when it comes to relationships. Also, in everyone else’s eyes, what you're doing is simply kicking up a fuss. If I were to analyze your behavior, you’re acting like this because you think that Theo will never leave you no matter what you do. You think that he'll always find a way to persuade you to come back.
"He’s spoiled you, and that led to your indulgence in this game of having him chase after you. You often encourage others to cherish their loved ones but are you doing as you say? Has it ever crossed your mind that maybe you and Theo's relationship will actually come to an end
when he becomes exhausted one day?"
I froze. Her words came at me like a blow, leaving me dumbfounded.
Cassey continued, "Caleb's and my relationship isn't as passionate as yours, nor do we experience challenges like you do, but our marriage comes in the most basic form. In our tiny home, trivial matters such as not washing one's socks, neglecting the baby, or fighting over work stress one party brings home may be a constant, but we both acknowledge that this is just a small part of life. We understand that we should let these matters pass. They're not to be taken seriously.
"Most of the time, we'll give each other a morning kiss and a hug before we leave the house. When one of us faces stress and blues at work, everything becomes worth it
the moment we come home and see each other. The relationship that Caleb and I share is ordinary and lasting. We're raising a baby together, and as we offer our love for each other, we share the love with our baby at the same time.
"Perhaps your and Theo's relationship is more passionate than any of us, but there's a huge problem with how both of you view and treat love. You overcomplicate love. Just think about it. Is Cindy really an obstacle between the two of you? What about Matthew? Not at all. In fact, a person will meet plenty of people who will have a crush on them in this lifetime. Are you going to take all of them so seriously each time? They're just passersby in your life. I don't understand why you're quarreling over these passersby.
"A healthy relationship is all about understanding and tolerance. It’s to be able to think differently and put yourself in another person's shoes rather than making demands and restrictions. Theo has become better and better over the years. He compromises and is tolerant, so much so that he tries his best not to give you any pressure when he knows that you refuse to be a housewife. But where are your changes? Do you really not want to grow at all?"
Cassey's words hit me hard across the face like a vicious slap.
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